Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your worst adversary.
A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.
When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, likewise to women.
In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren’t that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.
Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.
Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
The best naturals out there see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.