3 Ways Separation Can Help You Get Your Ex Back
I know it sounds completely opposite to what you expect would work for getting your ex back, but the truth is severing all contact with your ex for about a month can really help you get him back when that month is over. There are numerous reasons why this is so, and here are just a couple.
1) Being in each others’ faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it’s easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.
By the time the month is over, everyone’s temper should have cooled off, and some real thinking to have started. A calmer head and a willingness to work on things is far more likely, and far more beneficial to the process of fixing your relationship and getting back together.
2) Even if you two are on good terms still, being together after the breakup has other effects that can make it harder to get him back. Think about it, how much will your ex want you back in his life if he feels you never left his life? That’s how it can end up feeling if you’re still together after you separate.
You don’t know what you have until it’s gone, and you can’t miss it if it’s still there. Neither can your ex! By forcing him to live without you for a month, completely without you, he has to come to terms with the consequences of his decision. Often, the reality of being completely without you will soften him up to the idea of a second try.
3) Being up in each others’ business, so to speak, tends to be a bit distracting and frustrating. It can be difficult to find the peace to really figure out what’s going on and what needs to be addressed if you’re going to pull off a reunion. Having a month apart from one another gives you ample opportunity to both heal your breakup pain and work out a plan for getting him back.
People in this situation can act really oddly, and to get the results you want you may not be able to just naturally come to the right choices. You have to have a plan, or you’re shooting in the dark and will probably end up hitting yourself in the foot. This freedom of time and space will let you reason out a plan that will actually work, rather than just doing whatever feels right (since it’s often actually the wrong idea).
Any person fresh out of a breakup with the intention to get her ex back should take this advice seriously. You’ve seen a few of the reasons, so I’m sure you understand the benefits of this separation…actually doing it can be hard. It’s tough to be apart from the person you care for, but in some ways that’s what you’re banking on. Just rest assured that this will help, and when you get through it you’ll find it much easier to find happiness again with your ex. I wish you the best of luck.